Co-sleeping ? or !

As promised! A post on co-sleeping! And It seems to me that this topic is just as controversial as breastfeeding x formula feeding, for example.

Every single healthcare professional has told us NOT to sleep with our baby because there was a chance we could harm her. Well, I can see that. And for the longest time, more precisely 9 long months, I thought to myself that Helena was going to sleep in her room, in her crib, and so on… It turns out life has proved me wrong once again. She is nearly 7 months old and has NOT EVER spent a whole night in her crib, in her room!

Like I said, initially, I had no intensions of sleeping with her, and therefore, in the very first nights we would have her sleep in her crib, in her room. She would wake up SEVERAL times throughout the night and the 3-second walk to her room felt like climbing the Great Wall of China, from bottom to top, of course!
Naturally, we got a bassinet in our room. At first, it seemed like it was going to work great even though she was still feeding many times every night. She’d eat and fall asleep, but, as soon as I’d put her back in her bassinet, she would ALWAYS wake up crying. Basically, she was waking up now more often than before as I’d insist to keep her in her bassinet.

Finally, it happened! I no longer tried to put her back in there and allowed her to sleep with us. I felt so guilty the next day like I was an irresponsible mom, but, by 4 a.m, I just could not get up anymore. I needed some sleep! And it happened again and again. I would initially try the bassinet and, eventually, give up and let her sleep with us. I felt guilty for the longest time. REALLY guilty. It was horrible. But I had to do what I had to do.

Eventually I gave up crib/bassinet training altogether and had her sleep with us all night long. But the guilt was still there. One day I did something I should have done long before: I googled how to SAFELY co-sleep with my baby.

First, I learned that co-sleeping is not the same as bed-sharing. What I was doing was bed sharing, but most people use the expression co-sleeping even when they actually mean bed-sharing.

Anyway … Secondly, I read something I had never read before, but my instinct had already alerted me to the fact: Mothers are ALWAYS aware of their baby’s presence which is NOT true to Fathers.

Even when mothers are sleeping, they know their baby is there. I know that to be true because I would barely move throughout the night since I was so scared of hurting her. I could tell I was waking up in the very same position/spot I had initially fallen asleep in whereas my husband would totally forget the baby was there.

So, here it is! A list of things you can do to SAFELY bed share with your little one:

* Do NOT have daddy sleep next to the baby. It must be baby, then mommy, and finally, daddy. And that is because of the awareness previously mentioned.

* You can either push your bed close to the wall or buy rails in order to keep your little one from falling out of bed. I chose to buy bed rails because I think it is safer since there is always a gap between the bed and the wall. If you choose to push the bed to the wall make sure to fill the gap!

* Be very careful with covers and pillows. Your little one may get tangled in your covers. The best option is to keep them off your baby. Dress your baby warm so that you do not need to cover him/her.

Once I applied these changes, I did not feel guilty anymore and was able to enjoy sleeping with my Helena.

Eventually, my husband started to sleep in the spare room in order to maximize his sleeping hours which allowed Helena and I to have the bed completely to ourselves. I had the best nights of sleep, then! She would help herself to my breasts whenever she was hungry as I’d make them accessible.

Now, the three of us are sleeping together again. I have got to say that I love it! I mean, it is uncomfortable because Helena, now at almost 7 months, moves a lot, is a really fussy sleeper, but I can see that it truly helps her evolve. She feels confident and safe, she has a great night of sleep and not to mention that it helps prevent SIDS.

You must be thinking now ” What the h*** is she talking about now?”. Well, it is true. When you sleep with your little one it helps prevent SIDS because the baby tends to copy your sleeping pattern! Your little one will try to match his/her breathing to yours!

To me, bed sharing is like a continuation of the bond mother and baby had in the womb. The closeness, the warmth, the intensity of the connection! It certainly helps you to bond with your baby and vice-versa AS LONG AS YOU DO IT SAFELY.

If you are interested in bed-sharing, I HIGHLY recommend that you read more about it to make sure you are doing it right!

I will never quit saying the word SAFELY!! Do it safely!!! It is possible!!

 

Good night!


			

New Changes to Our Page !

So, I did a lot of thinking and I came to a conclusion.

Considering the fact that a) I share a lot of personal information on here and b) a lot of people who read the page feel hesitant to comment because they, too, do not want to expose personal information, I have decided that now our page will be PASSWORD protected!

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Fun Things To Do in Edmonton (and Area) for Moms with Babies … Part I

So many things go thru your  mind when you find out you’re expecting! A lot of doubt and questions, but one thing you know FOR SURE: you will spend a lot of time indoors. Or will you ?

Well, you don’t have to !

This is the basic concept most people have. You sure need some time to adjust to your new life, your new routine, to HEAL !! But as time goes by, it is up to YOU whether you will be home or not.

Helena was only 4 days old when we went to the restaurant for the first time with her. And only about 2 weeks old when we went on our first road trip to Calgary: I WAS DRIVING !!

The idea to be home ALL THE TIME depressed the life out of me. Plus, I saw my little bundle of joy as my BFF, someone I can hang out with, keep me company.

I was extremely surprised and happy when I realized how much there is to do as a mom here in Edmonton. Really, if you look it up online you will be in awe, too.

I won’t list every single thing out there. Just the ones I personally know and can vouche for!

 

#1  My Most Favoritest  One of All Places !!!! The Movie Theatre: Stars & Strollers

You can tell I love this one just by the excessive use of superlative haha But yeah. Three of Cineplex Theatres have sessions meant for moms and babies/toddlers. Each theatre has its own schedule, but they all have a few things in common:

– Choice of two new movies every week

– A baby friendly environment

– Lowered volume and dimmed lighting

– Change table

– Stroller Parking Available in select theatres

Here’s the schedule:

Cineplex Odeon North & ScotiaBank have their Stars & Strollers sessions on Wednesdays at 1 p.m

Cineplex Odeon South has its Stars & Strollers sessions on Thursdays at 1 P.M.

 

I have only been to S&S at Cineplex Odeon North and the Scotiabank one. The only difference I found was that the change table at the north one is in the washroom whereas, at Scotiabank, the change table is right out the door and it is filled with supplies such as diapers, wipes, hand gel and so on … as seen on the picture below. I myself took this picture on my way out.

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#2 My Second Most Favoritest Place to spend time: Java Mama in Saint Albert

Did you think you could NOT go for coffee anymore now that you have a baby? Well, think again.

Java Mama is a baby/toddler friendly coffee shop for moms !! Watch your kid play as you’re having some coffee and catching up with your friends. There is a toddler area and a baby area that has exersaucers and other toys.

The pic bellow is of Helena having a blast while I, my mom and my friend had breakfast!

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# 3 My Third Most Favoritest Thing to do: Swimming !!!

 

Millenium Place is a wonderful place to go for a swim with baby. It is a very family oriented rec centre, it has baby friendly pools, and great family rooms to change, and whatnot, keeping the family together !!

Now, if you are interested in Swim Lessons, you can get your baby started at as early as 4 months of age. Our lessons took place in Sherwood Park, at the Kinsmen Leisure Centre. We signed up online on http://www.strathcona.ca. It was about $40.00.

I will be honest with you: you will spend more time in the change room than in the pool, but it is still A LOT OF FUN and totally worth it. Your baby will have a blast in the water, socialize and your little one will get more and more familiar with being in water and taking baths at home.

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# 4 My Fourth Most Favoritest Thing To Do: Mommy Groups !!!

 

I was part of two different mommy groups: Mommy Connections & New Mom’s Group.

The first one is run by a fellow mother and we get to socialize with other moms, we learn new things and our babies get to socialize. It was a good experience. It cost $85 for 6 weeks, meeting once a week.

New Mom’s group is run by Alberta Health Services. It served the very same purpose as mommy connections, but in my opinion is much better for a few reasons. First because it was cheaper since their weekly meetings, a total of 6, cost ONLY $30.

Second because it was run by a nurse and every lecture was EXTREMELY informative and detailed. And third reason, well, it was $30 bucks !!! It is so cheap I count it twice haha

The pic bellow is of Helena at Mommy Connections. She had just taken her feet print !!!!

 

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One thing is for sure: You need to get out of the house. I find that doing fun things with my baby helped us bond even more. Plus, it will keep you from falling into PPD.

I hope this quick post can be as informative as it can possibly be and that it may give you ideas of things you can do!

 

Is there any other special thing you do or places you go with your little one?? I would love to hear some suggestions !!