A 6-Month Vacation

I am so glad to say we are officially DONE nursing!

My goal was to get Helena off nursing before baby number 2 would come around as I really wanted a break between the two.

It is a relief to know I will have about 6 months free from nursing. It will certainly help me recharged my batteries before I start nursing again.

I am so proud of myself. Nursing is certainly not an easy task, and I could never imagine I would come this far.

When I started to wean her off it wasn’t actually hard. I believe I made it harder because I was so used to using nursing at times of difficulty to soothe her, to get her to sleep. At times I should have stick to no nursing, I gave in and nursed just to make my life easier.

Then I realized it wasn’t fair to Helena when she wanted to nurse  and I would deny her, but then nurse her when it was convenient for me. So, I finally managed to stick to the plan.

I know some people look up online ways to wean baby off, but we really didn’t do that. There were specific times and places that would trigger Helena’s want to nurse, so, knowing ahead of time WHEN she would want to nurse helped us figure things out. The sippy cup was the most important tool in this process. Whenever she would want to nurse, we’d have a sippy cup ready for her. For about a week or so, Helena would cry because she really wanted to nurse.

Then, I would give her a cup to be with her all day. I would always make sure it had something in it like juice or milk. I noticed she transferred the attachment she had towards nursing to the sippy cup. She would carry it with her throughout the house and drink from it whenever she wanted. Slowly, she forgot about nursing.

But there was still one thing to overcome. During the mornings, when Helena’d wake up, I would bring her to our bed just to buy me another half hour of laziness in bed. At this time, there is no sippy cup or juice or milk that would replace mommy. She wanted to nurse and that is all she would take. I started to hug her really tight and rub her back when she was freaking out because she wanted to nurse and couldn’t . Eventually, she would try to nurse and when she would realize she wasn’t gonna get any, she herself would take the initiative to hug me and ask me to rub her back.

I thought it was very interesting how cuddling replaced nursing in the morning. I guess it goes to show nursing is really a lot about bonding and affection. Lately, I have just been skipping bringing her to bed at all. I figured a change in our routine would help this big change in her little world. After all, she has known nursing since the very first minutes of her life.

With next baby, however, I want to start the weaning process a bit earlier. I really want to be done by the time baby is about 14 months or so. Their little teeth make nursing so much more uncomfortable, at least for myself.

I hope this experience of mine can help someone out there who might be struggling with weaning baby off .



Breastfeeding in North America Feels Like Committing a Crime

As you must know by now, I am from Brazil. I have been living in Canada for over 7 years now, and up until the moment I started breastfeeding I had never noticed some people cover up when they are nursing. Seriously, I never noticed it. Perhaps because I don’t really stare at people when I am out and about. Growing up in Brazil allowed me to view breastfeeding for what it truly is: Natural and Beautiful.I had never heard a negative comment on it until I moved to Canada and had a kid. Helena is 14 months now and I am still amazed at how controversial the topic is. I did try to cover up to nurse, but Helena feels extremely uncomfortable to the point where she cries. So, let’s truly analyze the situation here.

First of all: It is healthy for babies and mothers.

The very basic information on breastfeeding is that it is extremely healthy for mothers and their babies. Not only it is extremely nourishing, but it also provides moms and babies with the opportunity to bond.

When I hear comments such as “If you can expose your breasts to nurse then it should be ok for me to take my penis out in public to pee.” Urine is a waste, it is something not even your own body wants to keep. Breastfeeding is everything to a baby: their food, comfort, and immunization. By comparing your urine to my milk, all you are proving is that you are ignorant.

Now, you are probably thinking “I am not against it, just don’t make me watch it.”

I am glad you said that. The only one who can make you watch it is yourself. Unless, of course, you find yourself in this position:



 Second of all: Why is your comfort more important than a baby’s?

Why should my helpless baby be forced under a cover where she is clearly distressed just because it bothers you otherwise?

Or, even worse, why should my baby be fed in the restroom just to please you?

Seriously, just look away.

You probably show more skin in a warm summer day than I ever did nursing. You probably show more skin on a Friday night at the bar than I ever did nursing. This guy has showed more skin, and more boob for that matter, than I ever did nursing.



Third of all: Anatomically/biologically speaking, breasts are not considered a sexual organ as they do not play a part in the procreation process. We, as a species, attributed them a sexual stigma. So, I am sorry, but, if you see anything sexual when a mother is nursing a child, perhaps it is time for you to try psychoanalysis. You know, maybe, Freud can shed a light.

Fourth of All: Have you thought that maybe your opinion is not your own opinion? That maybe it is a byproduct of the capitalist society we live in, in  favor of those who can profit by breaking a mother into giving up nursing over formula feeding?

No, there is nothing wrong with formula feeding. I am not looking to start a debate here. Each of us knows what is best for us, and what I am referring to does not apply to you. No worries there.

And above all,

Has it ever occurred to you that I would rather you did not watch me either?

Has it ever occurred to you that nursing is really demanding and that all of us should be supportive to these mothers who are doing nothing but trying to do their best and be their best?

We should be supporting nursing moms like we support our hock teams.

We should be looking up to them as we do our idols.

Is it really that hard for you to be selfless?

To be kind?

To be polite, look away and move on with your life?

Is it really? Because if it is so, then, perhaps, you should be the one covering your face.

Such an easy problem to solve. Just look away.

Look away.

Just look away .

Mind your own business.

Look away.

Just look away.

You don’t have to watch.